Dilemma
Here is some food for thought(i still wonder to myself why its actually called food, and not drink or some other obscure thing like car…….). Anyway early this week, i think either on monday or tuesday , i met this dude. Now i have known this dude for about two years and have began to entertain a warm regard for him, hence i can safely say we are friends.
Anyway we get to talking about things that guys talk about(and since am sure there are gals out there who actually read this blog, i shall not reveal some of the stuff guys actually get to talk about). As we talk some more, this dude suddenly feels compelled, i do not know by what, to start talking about his personal life. Now i really do not know if i should grade it as personal seeing as most of it happens at the place where he earns his bread, or cake or whatever it is. His is one big fat dilemma.
Here is a guy who actually thinks he is in love with one of the gals he works with, even though he has never let her know about how or why he actually feels like she is the only damsel in the world(too bad for him she aint in distress). Lets describe the gal, so you can certainly understand why this hombre feels the way he does. According to him,and we absolutely have no reason to believe a word he says, but according to him, this damsel is small and dainty, with a jaunty walk that speaks of a good nature. She does have the brightest smile he has come across, and it always makes him feel weak, well that is also according to him. He feels she is the kind of gal he could love with all the stored up devotion of a 25 year old buffer. Oh, and did i mention my mate is a sucker for gals in red and the gal absolutely looks smashing in red, as a matter of fact, its her favorite color. Why, you may ask, is this brotha wasting this opportunity. Turns out dude has got a colleague of his who also feels the gal, and unfortunately for my man, the gal seems to somehow like the other guy even though she keeps denying it.
Now this is where the dilemma really is, my mate is kinda a boss to his colleague although its not really defined, and my mate claims that much as this other dude likes the chic, he is actually just flirting with her and will probably not go any further than flirting. Here is where you come in. What do u think this brotha should do?? Please bear in mind that he is not really sure whether the gal feels him, i mean some days she acts like he be the one, and then some others, he has no existence whatsoever.
Me thinks, dude should get a life, and i told him as much, stop wasting his time with office romances, but then he claims that he feels she was created for him (bollocks???). Even though he could not sight any examples, he went on to claim that some of the best romances he knows blossomed from within the office corridors. Makes you wonder, if he knows these romances, how come he could not sight just one of them, maybe we should not trust this brotha at all. Anyway, what do u thin k he should do?? Post a reply
Peace out…. You know it makes sense!!!!!!!!
November 16th, 2007 at 5:23 pm
I suggest the brother talks to the lady and tell her how he really feels. If he doesn’t he will have to bare the heartaches daily.
The worst part in loving someone; is them not knowing how much you really care about them.
Honesty may bring him the luck he needs. But not to expect too much from someone who may not be ready for it. But you never know untill you really ask.
If you ask me. Once you have said the first two there sentences and she gives you audience, you will find you gain more confidence to say it all out.
Best of Luck. Remember don’t do this if you dont see yourself and her in a longterm commitment.
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November 24th, 2007 at 7:31 pm
Hmm! If your pal likes her, she already knows it, trust me. We just always know these things. The safest thing to do would be to keep his feelings to himself and wait for the crush to pass. If ever. If his boy also likes her, and if he (your pal) feels he can’t live without her, then he could first up his game, and then let her know. But, because rejection is such a debilitating thing for you guys for reasons I will never understand, he shouldn’t expect her to say yes. You know the way people go to American Idol or Big Brother Africa and expect to win, but get heartbroken when they lose? That’s wrong. Kwani they think all the contestants will be numero uno? They should kind of go in ready to lose, and celebrate if they win. Lol. Anywho, your friend should kind of have a back-up plan, and no, it shouldn’t be to tell all his boys that she never really was all that anyway. And if they work in the same place, then that’s tragic because it could turn out to be a huge mess. Either way, ain’t love cute? I say, if she says no, it’s her loss. My theory, and I’m sticking to it. Lol, sorry for posting a blog entry in response to another blog entry.